The Trouble With “No”

The trouble with “no” is we keep saying “yes” to everything. We reply yes to phone calls, text messages, emails as they arrive. We say yes to volunteering for new projects, tasks, whatever comes up!  We are hesitant, if not afraid of what would happen, by saying no to a request.

Dictionaries define “no” as a negative answer or decision, and most people act as if it is a four-letter-word! Every day that belief is reinforced from early childhood into adulthood because saying no to a parent or teacher is seen as rebellion. “No” in the workplace is perceived as not being a team player or not carrying your allotted workload.

Unfortunately, by saying yes, we can compromise our ability to honor our commitments, which reflects on our work performance and our business relationships. Continually saying yes also causes more stress, more deadlines, and higher expectations. While “no,” strategically used, will have far-reaching benefits for you and your organization.  It is all in the way you use the power of “no.”

Ways of Using the Power of “No”

Don’t volunteer for additional projects if your bandwidth is already tight.  Your credibility is crucial to your reputation. If you do volunteer, choose wisely.  Does it help you grow additional skills you need to further your career, as well as add value to your organization? How does it support your career plan?  Of course, there are times you must volunteer for additional work because it increases the overall effectiveness of your team.

Organize and prioritize your work and be aware of your time commitments. When your boss asks you to do an additional task, and it will impact your deadline, negotiate either to have it delegated to another or to reprioritize its target date.  Be sure to have substantial evidence for your request, and not that you don’t like the work entailed.

If you are the “go-to” person for answers in your group; and, you are researching the solutions, instead tell them where they can find the answers. Not only does that give you more time to work on your designated tasks, but it helps them become more skilled in their role. One of my clients found he was adding an extra two hours to his day by discovering and relaying back the solutions. Each disruption causes at least a 20-minute delay in getting back to where you left off.

Say no to checking your emails as they come in.  They can be so distracting and take you away from your work. Instead, check them twice a day. Let people know through an automatic response when you will be reviewing and responding to emails.  The same goes for texts and telephone calls.

“No” Supports Your Boundaries

The advantage of using “no” strategically creates boundaries based on your commitments.  It gives you more control over getting your work done.  It also decreases the feeling of being overwhelmed to just feeling whelmed.

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About Chris Sier

Over the course of her career, Chris Sier has been a leader, business development manager, process consultant, and corporate coach. Having been an executive/leadership/career coach with a Fortune 200 company; and since 2009, as a business owner, Chris has worked with VPs, directors, team leaders, and high potentials globally, working with clients to maintain their competitive edge, manage complexity, drive growth and operational efficiency, and inspire and engage multi-generational teams. She also works with clients on their brand and career management. She has authored numerous booklets and articles, and has a Bachelor of Science Degree in Community Development with a minor in Psychology from Central Michigan University.

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Christine was my Executive Life Coach for about a year at EDS. I have worked with a number of Coaches, Counselors and Mentors during my career and none came close to having the impact Christine had on my life and career. I was working in an extremely stressful position during an extremely difficult project of migrating over 300 applications from 47 separate support vendors around the globe to an EDS support team. I had complete responsibility for the client relationship, the financials, and the technical aspects of the transition while also maintaining EDS' existing business with the client. Christine taught me a number of simple yet highly effective techniques for dealing with the stress. Her personal, sincere, and upbeat approach helped me get through a real death march. At the same time, she also helped me do some extremely important career planning for what would come after this project. She is truly outstanding at what she does and helped me grow and succeed during a period when I could easily have been crushed.

Kurt Toelken
Global Client Delivery Executive, Detroit, MI
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