Time To Reconnect With Our Inner Joy
This year is almost half over, and it feels like a lifetime has passed! These last few months have been grim, frightening, and uncertain. Luckily, States are steadily reopening, and companies are slowly rehiring employees. Yet, people are still extremely stressed out and irritated. Too much happening too fast.
Time to Find Our Inner Joy!
Self-isolation has affected us all. For a while now, I have read disturbing articles about customers yelling and spitting at shop owners and employees from not being allowed into the store without a mask to not having the product the customer wanted. One woman punched the shop owner in the face when told the last above-ground pool had been sold.
With emotions running high, it is immensely vital we reconnect with our positive emotions and let the negative feelings go. It affects the decisions we make and the actions we take in our personal lives and business. It affects our relationships with others and with ourselves. A fundamental emotion, Joy, is the foundation for our positive emotions. Waking up and happy to be part of the living feeling.
Besides, when I stopped at a light, the car in front of me had a vanity plate, ‘IGOTJOY.” I can’t argue with synchronicity! I knew I had to write about Joy.
Reconnecting with Joy
How do we reawaken the feeling of Joy? You can’t earn or work for it, and you can’t attain it through goals. Happiness is a state of being. The following ideas can bring Joy back into your life and work.
Where To Find Joy
Joy lives in the present when you are entirely focused on a task, not thinking of anything else.
When we are thinking about old hurts or fear we didn’t do well enough, we are living in the past. When worrying about what we have to do to get “stuff” done on time or what we need to do next, we are living in the future.
Often in our hectic lives, we get lost in the minutiae of living, and we feel overwhelmed, out of balance, and can become despondent at the most and frustrated at the least. When you bring yourself back to the present, you can find peace and Joy. It allows you to aspire to a higher quality of life. What you do today creates your tomorrow!
When you are thinking about what could happen or what did happen, it distracts you from what you are doing now and affects what you will experience in the future as a result of your actions.
Joy Is Not Self-Critical
Most of the time, we are concerned with what other people are thinking, which can inhibit what we genuinely enjoy doing. The irony is they are feeling the same way! People are so entangled in their dramas that there is no room to think about us. Don’t be the victim of needless worrying about what others think of you. Focus on what you feel is the right action to take in the present moment.
Joy Is Deflecting Self-Judgment.
By trusting in ourselves to do the best we can, we can enjoy what we are doing. We can make better, deliberate decisions instead of reacting to the situation.
Part of our worry comes from our fear we are never good enough. When we can accept our uniqueness, cherishing both our strengths and weaknesses, we acknowledge our special-ness. We build on our strengths, and we learn from our shortcomings. After all, if everyone was perfect, how challenging and exciting would life be – not very.
As Don Miguel Ruiz wrote in “The Four Agreements,” “simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.”
Joy Is Accepting Our Weaknesses As Well As Our Strengths.
To avoid self-judgment, accepting what we like and dislike about ourselves reduces the feeling of inadequacy and helps us focus on what we do well and determine where we could do better. When we are not judging ourselves, it is easier not to take things personally. Each day we do the best we can. Accepting that we are doing our best each day, even though our best can change from moment to moment.
Two books worth reading are:
“How to Stop Worrying and Start Living” by Dale Carnegie
“The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz”
After all we have been through this year, it is time to get our Joy back!